I asked T for a hug after a difficult disclosure and I think I was at a point where I felt so so vulnerable already that it couldn't get any worse. Well, he said no and it was utterly horrendous. I really don't think I've felt pain like it. To put myself in that kind of vulnerable position and to be rejected. Yeah, it was awful. T handled it badly, but I do know he had my best interests at heart.
Anyway the rupture and repair that ensued was really healing for me and if anything has actually strengthened our relationship, so some positives have come out of it.