My boyfriend is taking an all day class out of state tomorrow. I asked him last week if he wanted to go on a fall foliage trip in that area after his class. I had been planning my own trip to that area and was trying to time it for peak foliage.

He said he did. He took next Monday off from work. He said that I might need to drive because he would be tired after his class. I told him that we would need to take my car (I can't drive his - it's stick shift). He didn't object.

The weather does not look good for the first day of our trip. I have been keeping my eye on it and mentioning it.

He says that he took that to mean that I wanted to cancel the trip. This morning he told me that he needed to do something for his brother this weekend instead. He also said that I was horning in on his trip - and that he didn't want to take my car. I got upset - this is the first time I am hearing this, the morning of the day we are supposed to leave?

He accused me of 'starting drama' before his class tomorrow. He told me that I was ruining the event he had been looking forward to.

I told him that I thought my reaction was normal - why wouldn't I be upset that he was backing out of a trip we had planned at the last minute? How did I start this?

He said he would go on the trip, which didn't really make me feel better.

I don't really know what to do now. I thought that I would just take my trip without him, but I'm halfway through packing and losing my enthusiasm. I don't see how I can go on the trip with him now that he has said that he doesn't want to go - it really makes me mad, like I lose no matter what I do.