I have always given my T a painting, card or collage that I have created especially for her. I usually write a poem too. This year I don't have the energy or motivation to write my usual poem. I'm giving her an 8 x 10 enlargement of a photo that I took last year of the autumn leaves. She told me she liked it back then. I'm not buying a frame. I'll give it to her on Tuesday. My question is: do you think she'll appreciate a handwritten letter telling her what she means to me? That's what I feel like doing. For some reason, I'm sad about not being more creative. It's also tapping into wanting to write something for my H but I can't do that yet. I'm trying to be positive because so far he feels good, so don't want to think about the future right now except I'm very scared.