I’m getting upset with the “Heal your own inner child” idea that's going around so much. Sounds great, but... Am I supposed to have a transference relationship with my own self? I thought transference is the inner child transfering early feelings onto a therapist who represents the good/bad parent in early life. It is a relationship problem, not just a do-it-yourself project. Yes, we need to be helpful and loving to our own inner child, but having self-transference? That might make me a very good hermit. Maybe even attractive to someone avoidant. Something's drastically missing.