Hi Sunrise,

I forgot to mention that my husband did eventually do some couples counseling with me last November-January. It was difficult getting him there but he said he loved me so he'd go. He agreed to use my T since some of his issue was me seeing my T and my growing attachment. The good news is he changed his opinion on my T thank goodness. He understands the therapy process more now.

My husband is very shy, quiet and reserved. My T is the opposite but he does a great job mirroring the person he is talking to. My husband even cried during one of our couples sessions and he and my T seemed to be bonding over that.

However, it wasn't long before my husband started to complain about the extra copay on top of my individual sessions. Then he started talking to me about ending the couples therapy because he wasn't sure our problems are that bad and he knows what to do now in terms of intimacy and such. Note, nothing here has changed really.

Then one day, we went to my T for our session and my husband started to tell him that he didn't think it was beneficial to go any further. That he thinks we both are clear on what to do in our relationship and he wanted his opinion about stopping. And that was it he stopped going.

Now one time, my husband did see my T alone. He agreed that it would be good to try it. He even sounded excited when he left my T's office that night. He said he couldn't wait for the next session. Then slowly, it all changed. He never went back and he said he wasn't going to get anything out of it.