Hey Silver,

Was your counselor a therapist? Certainly some therapists are better than others! Mine's a clinical psychologist. I once had a regular counselor (no psychology training), but he wasn't able to help me with the types of relationship problems that I have. And regardless of their training, some therapists are better suited for some clients. Just a relationship thing.

I thought I had a lot of insight. I didn't realize how dishonest I was until I started therapy. I wondered why I had trouble with relationships, and it's because I didn't know how to express my own wants/needs. I'm still not great at it, but I'm getting much better through therapy. For me, I could not have got there on my own. I just couldn't see myself. It doesn't make any difference to me that my therapist doesn't know the other people. He's trying to understand who I am regardless of who made me that way.

One thing about therapy is that you realize you can't keep running away. A good therapist will cause you to confront a problem again and again.

Sidony