SnakeCharmer, I absolutely wouldn't mind being a social worker but I don't want to commit to aything because i'm really not entirely sure what I want to do. I do think that I would receive more pleasure through social work but I fear that per my personality I would become over exhausted because I care a great deal about people; maybe to a fault. I will definitely look into it; I thank you for making me aware of this! Lol, yeah I do fear she will not stop nagging me. I do think that she believes it is part of being a good mother and have no doubt she will be the same when I am successful in whatever endeavor I choose. My goal in life is happiness. Honestly, if I can say I haven't conformed to doing things that don't make me happy then I can call my life successful. I definitely don't feel too old; i just don't know how to convince her that i'm not too old. Lol, will definitely inform you when I figure out the meaning of life . Thanks.

IrisBloom, Lol, my mother is the same way with the "always be my kid" type thing. Its frustrating honestly because it doesn't make me feel loved - it makes me feel like she thinks I am incompetent. I definitely plan to move out - I just need to save up the money to do so which was hard to do with a part time job (but now i'm officially full time).

doyoutrustme, I agree. We do both need our own space to be our own people. She is always exhausted from helping everyone in the family that she is unhappy because she can't do for herself. However, I have tried to make it clear that I'm very much okay with her choosing herself over me. I was diagnosed with DPD (dependent personality disorder) but I honestly think that we're codependent on each other.

Zwangsstörung, thank you. That is so sweet. I agree, she does care although she doesn't always express it the best way, she definitely expresses it the best way she knows how. I try to be open to it, but I feel like the more I allow it, the more worn out I get and the less I want to do anything honestly. She was always the type of parent to ask why I didn't get a hundred if I made a 98; and i've always been the type to just be pleased with my 98 lol. The "one step at a time" part is really where the issue lies. I think I know its one step at a time, but i can't be sure of it and I wonder if she's right when she thinks that i'm not going to achieve anything.

seekersinking, Oh, as I said I definitely appreciate that she 'nags' me because it means she hasn't given up on me. The problem is not that I don't want to finish college - I did finish getting my undergraduate degree. She now wants me to go to med school - I do not wish to go to med school. I am okay with doing a masters or professional program and that's what I have been applying to but it's been very hard and I am waiting on acceptance/denial letters now. So its not that i'm not trying it's that i'm not moving quick enough and so she wants me to focus on something I don't want to do just so I can get done quicker and make more money. What I can't figure out is when did it become acceptable to teach someone that they should do what doesn't make them happy just to make money? I do know that life is expensive - I managed to pay 3 student loans, gas to/from work, 2 summer classes out of pocket, car taxes, my counseling bill, my doctors bills (allergy testing/shots, obgyn, mri bill, etc.) all out of pocket and only with a part time job. I'm not saying that I am content where I am at all; i'm saying that I don't want to go where she wants me to go. And instead of trying to help me figure out where I want to go I feel like she's pushing me to do what i'll later regret in life. I don't want to be that unhappy doctor, nurse, lawyer that almost kills their patients. I want to enjoy my job and reflect Christ to the people I come in contact with. The problem is, I don't know how yet best to do that and she pretty much thinks that that isn't important. When is it okay to do what I want to do? It's always been about others and it looks my future is heading the same way. I'm just not realizing there is more to life than whats in front of me; so i'm okay with the slow process but I just feel really unsupported honestly.