My transference with T has been a bell shape- curved experience. Not much in the beginning and then it swelled until it was terribly painful. I read everything and anything I could about it, and talked to T, and the pain started to subside. Each week it got better. We still have some investigative work to do to try and understand where it is coming from. The longing is still there, but after 2+ years, it is much less bothersome.