So, how long ago did you send out the invitations? I think that's a valid question because often when those of us who suffer from abandonment/rejection issues, start angsting and worrying when people don't respond one or two days after the invitations go out. It is pretty normal for people to wait until the last minute to respond--makes for real problems when we're trying to plan for a party, but that's life, even for people who are popular and unconcerned about who is or isn't coming to their party.

And yes, I agree with you that you shouldn't "follow" your therapist on her vacation. You can handle this situation. Yes, it would feel good and mean a lot to you to contact her and get her reassurance that you're "okay", but in the long run, you're going to feel a lot more self assured and confident if you handle it without contacting her. Call a good friend and talk it over with them. It doesn't have to be a close friend, just someone who is open to listening and who understand the angst involved in inviting other people to their house. Believe me, that's everyone I know. Party's are difficult and anxiety producing even for the most popular people . . . okay, a few mega stars don't worry about this.

By the way, Happy Birthday!