you are not wasting any one's time....the key to all of this is YOU MATTER...it is hard to look past the inappropriate things your t is doing...ultimately, YOU have to decide that this guy is hurting you not helping you....

read your posts....what would you tell another person if they read what you posted...i'm guessing you would be horribly concerned for their safety and encourage them to get away from that situation as quickly as possible, that is just pure speculation on my part....