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You make sense, Sidony

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Thanks!

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How do you bond with a stranger? Aren't you afraid that he might appear to take you seriously, but inside be laughing at you or something? I realize that you build up a 'therapeutic relationship' but isn't it a rather false one?

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I don't know how the bonding happens! I didn't really expect it. I didn't know what to expect from therapy frankly. But I found that almost instantly I felt there was a bond between me and him. I guess he facilitated that 'cause I sure don't know how it comes about. It doesn't seem false to me. I mean, of course I pay him so it's different from friendship. But in friendship I'd be helping the other person with their problems too (something you don't do in therapy). I guess it's more like having a mentor. I did worry what he thought of me for a long time -- heck I still do. But I genuinely feel that he cares, and he's clearly helping me toward my goals. So I'm really happy that I ended up in therapy. I mostly just did it on a whim because someone said it would be helpful. I didn't know what I was doing.

I think for therapy to be helpful you have to be receptive to the idea. And obviously you need a therapist that you click with. I don't know how you pick -- I was just lucky I guess. But it's wonderfully helpful when it's right.

Sidony