Hi Everyone. I need help from the ladies. I have been with my bf for 9 yrs love and care for him deeply. Last week, I accepted a LUNCH INVITATION from someone I know from high school who is in the Army been in it for 4 yrs now re-enlisted for another 3 yrs. He seems very different, I enjoyed his company so much. We were wanting to date in 04, but we both had a lot of issues and argued so I stopped talking to him for 3 yrs. I would see him now and then somewhere, but never said anything to him. I almost jumped in bed with him but we didn't it's like I regret it now.

During lunch, he told me exactly what he thought of my current boyfriend and said I notice you are not happy, I can tell and you know I am right. I told him how much I love/care for my boyfriend. For years, current bf and I have argued a lot over petty ****, his anger issue, and still currently his lack of commitment to anything even his computer issue putting me last. Bf claims he doesn't "put me last" when it comes to the computer then why does it take hours for him to finish and we were suppose to go have fun? If I am not last, then I should be the top priority, right? He proposed to me when I was 21 in 07, wore a ring he bought for us and said we were engaged but actually my bf said he wanted to propose where people out there can go awww ain't that cute? Does it really matter? I don't care where the guy proposes to me as long as I say yes!

I don't wear the ring anymore as the stone fell out but he still has his ring. Army guy said I don't see your relationship lasting much longer, but it's frustrating how bf wanted to marry me yet could never provided us some kind of a home long ago. He works, part time that's the only thing he could get, and the hours are just terrible. I work part time and looking for a 2nd job trying to get a place but my monthly income is so low I can't afford it with a roomie or on my own which I am miserable because I can't get enough hours at my job as the district won't allow part timers to go over. I love my job, but wish it was full time.

I had a lot of fun with Army guy, I kept seeing him a lot and ended up kissing him like a lot. We acted like a couple in person, a real couple. We had no arguing, we love to challenge one another it's fun for us done it to him before it's just playful. I wonder if Army guy is the one for me? I haven't spoken to my bf about what's going on with our relationship. I know he wants a full time job but that's hard to get where we live plus he was out of work for almost 5 yrs. He doesn't wanna job hop because that is being used against people harder now than it was years ago, how can we be married if we still can't live together?

Ever since I went to "therapy" (went to therapy for other reasons not for COUPLES COUNSELING ) and having A SOCIAL WORKER at the women's center and attending those workshops; I feel like I am becoming a different woman. Other people said go for it, date the Army guy whether he is the one or not at least you can say you gave him a chance. Yea, it's a lot of feelings needed to be sorted out. Army guy will be gone for 2 months or maybe longer in another state doing another MOS. I mean, my bf has been there for me a lot and Army guy was a good shoulder to cry on long ago. I cried hard on Thursday last week on Army guy's chest about the possibility of leaving my boyfriend. Army guy is great when it comes to listening to my needs and he seems more mature having his **** together. I am still trying to get my **** together I wish 10 yrs ago I had it all together and wouldn't still be stuck like I am now.

Another thing that bothers me is that my boyfriend is constantly talking to someone on Hangouts. I don't have a problem if there's chatting, but I always wondered if he is "still" cybering with other women. I mean, I have seen chats where he was talking to bi/lesbian women about their own relationship issues with other women just normal chatting. I can't seem to get a hold of his phone nor do I know his password to his email. I always hear women who crack open their husband/boyfriend's password(s) and find some info. Why would he cyber with other women? Yea, he did this twice in the past. I asked boyfriend is it because we are not having sex all the time? Any women on here have any tips on how I could do that without getting in trouble? I told him I don't want to be one of those girlfriends who snoop in your emails or phone. Cybering with women, damn near borderline cheating! He never met these women they lived in another state or country. He said he was always horny that's why he did it and it doesn't mean anything. I told him long ago, if you cheat, I am done! Bf doesn't have a computer at the moment and he wants to get one, I can see that becoming a problem again where I am last on the list! It's fine if he wants a computer to do stuff on, but putting that before me and being on it all hours of the night not sleeping at all is a problem which this started when he was in high school.

Everybody told him he has a problem and he got irate saying he doesn't have a problem. How come you are always late to your jobs? Never can complete an application any time I would email him a job I think may interest him telling me I will do it and never finishes it then *****es about the closing date passing by and who's fault is that?!? Seriously, he is 6 yrs away from being 40.

I seem to have my answers about Army guy but would like to take it slow IF we do date in the future. Army guy is going back to TX this morning not sure when he will be back in AZ. I feel like I may be falling in love with Army guy hard....

If anyone has any tips let me know.