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January said:
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You don't know what, if any qualifications your therapist had since he/she was available through uni.

Also, no one will ever be able to say anything that will make you want to go to a t or pdoc until you decide you want to get better. There is no point in saying anything.

Hugs,

Jan

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January is right on target. If you do not wish to be helped or to do the work then you will not benefit from therapy. Also, it is important that you get a therapist that is qualified and that you feel comfortable working with that individual. You mentioned earlier that you thought Jan's statement was condemnatory. It was not condeming you for your decisions but just stating the truth that if you do not wish to be helped... it will certainly be hard to help you. It is difficult to admit that you need help...and going to the T's office is not necessarily fun... at least initially.. or overall. It is a wonderful and often positive experience but it is an incredibly difficult journey that you need to really be vested in to get anywhere with. It is serious business. It is your life....and your future and that is what therapy is all about. It is an investment in your hopes, dreams, realities and possibilities for your life and that is why it is a worthwhile journey. Accept what you have (and that is not always easy ) or take action to change it. Therapy is the way to do that with a knowledgeable, independent opinion and insight that is special to you and all that surrounds you and what makes you you.

And no life will not be perfect... but it will be better than putting up with all that you mentioned in your list of potential concerns. Therapy reaches the heart and the psyche to help us be more comfortable with and understand ourselves and learn how to do things differently.