My brother, who played the husband role with mommy dearest, joined the military for 6 years to get away from her narcissistic personality. By the way, there is tons of information out on the web regarding narcissistic mothers. I left town to different city & state as soon as I was able. I needed the distance to put the focus on me for a change & get help for myself. It was the best thing I ever did to save my own life. The distance helped tremendously. If I stayed, I would have been forced into being mama's slave. Run, run for your life. There's a whole new world out there. That's just me. *big warm friendship hug*