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Oct 04, 2014, 07:05 PM
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My husband and I have been married for 20 years, but sometimes he treats me like he barely knows me- Apparently I have very little experience with men. The little experience that I do have has been mostly negative ones- Well, the other day I had sex with him after months of not having any sex with him. I didn't really want to do it, I just did it as a favor to him for being a good husband lately.
Anyways, he has never been very expressive with me most of the time. He used to call me sexy and pretty when I was younger and thinner, but I"m in my early 40's now and heavy at a size 14- I look like I'm 30 though. Well, I asked him what attracted him to me since I needed to feel an emotional connection to him. I also wanted an ego boost and to feel like he still finds me attractive even though I no longer look as thin or as pretty as I used to.
What he did next was insulting and infuriating. He STRUGGLED to answer all of my questions after I asked him again what are my best traits. I even told him that it doesn't have to be physical! He acted like what I was asking was completely absurd, but he finally came up with this answer:
That I have nice skin. WTH???? Ugh! Are most men like this and this stupid, cold, and unemotional? He was like a robot! You'd think that after 20 years, he'd have a better answer for me than that! No wonder why I HATE having sex with him at times! He is awful in bed, and I have to do ALL of the work! Sorry, but that's true! I never even liked sex that much! I've never heard of any complaints from him though aside from not getting as much as he'd like of course!
I'd love to hear answers from BOTH men and women! Especially married men or those who have been in long term relationships as no one knows quite how a guy thinks like another guy! He's so lucky that I can just let this go although it's still very frustrating to me.
He NEVER tells me that I look nice, ever! Sometimes he'll notice my hair when I get it done, but he'll just say, did you get your hair done? And then not much else.
Is there something wrong with him, or are just men like that? Unemotional and robotic? He has no mental issues that I'm aware of. He's a lot more open with his family and friends, but not me! Why's that?
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