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Oct 04, 2014, 07:27 PM
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Originally Posted by woundedsoul
I've had the same problem myself. I've really only had two good friends my whole life, and that's just been recently, and they moved away a few years ago, which has made me extra depressed. I'm really outgoing, and can make friends anywhere, but it seems like people just end up not wanting to make the effort to be friends with me. I really believe that it's me. I don't know what else ito can be. I know that I have BPD, but does that automatically make people not like you? I'm still a kind, caring, honest, loyal friend. And, I really try to keep my insecurities hidden from people. I have a my therapy appt, I'll be back.
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You're lucky that you're outgoing! It's so much harder to make friends when you're shy! Most people write you off almost right away usually if they're outgoing and you're not it seems like. Anyways, maybe you've been meeting the wrong type of people lately.
I sometimes open up to people about my insecurities, but I think that most people can tell that I'm not the most confident person there is right away- Even though my anxiety and depression aren't as bad as it used to be, I still find it challenging to socialize in groups sometimes. I have made the mistake of telling a few friends in the past about my insecurities and depression, and some have understood, and some people have become more distant from me after finding that out.
It seems like sometimes people can sense when something about a person is different. A lot of people seem to be scared or unsure of how to react to people who are different. If someone is going to automatically reject you for having BPD, then to hell with them. Who needs judgemental people in their life? Maybe you'd have better luck joining a meetup group to find like minded people that you have more in common with.
There are even support groups that you can find on there to meet other people like you IRL. Sorry to hear that you're having such a tough time making friends too. Apparently we aren't the only ones with this problem, so don't feel to bad-
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