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Oct 04, 2014, 07:40 PM
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Originally Posted by HeavyFeather
This article struck me because I am 25 and have 1 female friend in a neighboring state
I visit every so often. In my home state my only friends outside of my partner is a 50 something yr old woman. I find most friendships distract me due to lack of shared interests. Im a highly sensitive person, so with this the indirect communication as explained earlier are a common thing I run into -is quite the turn off.
I also ran into the envy of females often. Since my life is "ideal" to some women -which Id beg to differ. This creates an unfriendly energy directed towards me, so this pushes me to create distance. As Ive told my better half, Id love a female to be close to -sisterly like, which almost seems impossible..
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You sound a lot like me, especially when I was younger. I only had two online friends that I saw only a few times a year who both lived far away from me when I was in my 20's as well as a few people that I talked to online, but I only had those two friends at the time. I'm also a highly sensitive person who has issues with indirect communication and jealousy issues too sometimes.
I don't have the ideal lifestyle IMHO, but I DO have a much better life than most of my friends. First of all, I don't work right now aside from doing temp jobs once in awhile. I have traveled to Europe, Asia, and a few other places in the U.S. I have no kids to look after, no job or boss that causes me stress, etc...I still have problems though just like everyone else does. I'm a great friend and the least jealous person there is, but sometimes I feel that some women are jealous of me, including my best friend.
For example, she used to compliment me a lot on how I look. She hasn't done that after her life started getting worse and worse for her. She stopped calling and emailing me as often too after awhile. She is dealing with a lot of difficulities now, but all of this happened long before she had to deal with all the crap she is dealing with now.
I have also noticed that after some time a lot of female friends will become more distant from me, and I could never quite figure out why that is. It seems odd that the more that they get to know me, the less they end up liking me over time which is weird. They tend to be more independent, so maybe they look down on me since I'm not as strong as them? I don't know, but it's stupid. I'm always good to them, so that makes no sense to me. I'm usually the one who initiates the calls, emails, invites, etc...
Can you give me example of this negative energy that you get from other women? It almost seems like we're wired differently from other women in a good way of course! I tend to be direct and honest with other people. I'm also not afraid to speak my mind usually, especially when someone is being rude or treating me unfairly. I'm direct but nice though! It's so weird to how some people express interest in wanting to be friends at first, and then I never hear from them again, weird!
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