As a mom, I didn't "want" to disbelieve my daughter. I wanted to disbelieve she had been hurt. I wanted to think I was super-mom, capable of leaping tall buildings in a single bound, and capable of protecting my children.

What a shock to find out that my baby was hurt repeatedly for years by someone I invited into our home! Turns out she was scared to tell me because she thought I wouldn't believe her.

When she finally gave me all the details, over a year after the abuse stopped, I just hugged her and said "I'm glad you feel safe enough to finally tell me."

So your mom pretending it didn't happen to you is not healthy, but I can understand where she's coming from. Doesn't make it right, doesn't make you hurt less.

I'm sorry this happened to you, and I believe in you. *hugs*