What about when we as clients call our Ts in times of crisis? I find that I KNOW I don't want to because it won't do any good - and then I give in because I've injured or I feel like I will or I'm dissociated or .... all the reasons we call for help) and then T - like, all of them that I've seen- say things like "well... what do you usually do to get grounded?" Or the classic one (that I got tonight) "Why don't you try (fill in the blank - tonight's was 'watch a movie') and then if you're still not feeling back to yourself, then call me back - I'll take calls until x time." "I'll check in tomorrow".
What do you feel?
I felt shame
then "i KNEW it. I TOLD you. we never should have called."
I feel like Ts don't really know what to do for us in times of need and just hope we'll come up with something. Like they say these things just to (as this T put it the other day) 'cover their a..." just in case something bad happens they can say "Of course, I told her to try to use a coping mechanism, then call back if it didn't work."
What are your thoughts?