Hi Vhern1, work is going okay I guess. But I work nights 4 on 4 off and regardless of that my situation was exactly the same when I worked days so I don't think it is due to that. I don't like my job but I am looking elsewhere. The reason I am doing the nights is to get the debts paid off so it is a start I guess. I love both my children dearly and my wife too. I just get frustrated because I can't seem to (from what I can see) make her happy or get her to at least show me she loves me. I don't try to make sex the ultimate priority but when you haven't had it in 4 months and the time prior to that was 3 months, it makes it feel like she really doesn't want me in that respect. But I do try not to let it be the forefront of my issues. She does have trust issues but I am not sure I am fully to blame for that. Other past relationships she had could've made an impact. But she only showed that when I left her that time mentioned above.