Glad you could vent...

Don't really see the need for a private investigator - your in California which I believe is a no fault divorce state - no need to spend the money there - you'll need it for the attorney.

I'm glad you have your own counselor...

One of the first things are clergy asked us to do is to think and write down individually (no talking about it) what we wanted from our marriage. Interestingly enough it was a partial I opener.

The second assignment was to write down what "baggage" we individually were bringing to the marriage". That is were the skeleton's came out...her eating disorder, my depression were the two biggies...

Anyway - if you are misquoted in a together session - when it is your turn and in a very calm tone tell your side. Remember your hubby hears what he wants to hear...I'm a man and I'm thinking if I didn't wear my ring and then put it on - I certainly wouldn't be expecting my spouse to owe me one.

The ring is a symbol one that is put on when you take vows...to use it as an apparent bargaining chip to get something from you is ... well I don't know what to call it... but in poor form