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Originally Posted by Readytostop
You wrote this awhile ago on another person's thread and I think maybe it would help you as well:
The best thing you can do for yourself right now is self care and self compassion. It happens to all of us. Slipping back is part of the journey.
I might be wrong but I think you've had similar feelings before....I understand the issues are slightly different...or the triggers but I think you may be being your own worst enemy right now.
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I am always my own worst enemy. I told my T one day that I wasn't so much afraid of her response to the things I said, but my own. I don't know what to do with that or how to change it.
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Originally Posted by The_little_didgee
This isn't a waste of my time. You are hurting. Usually you are upbeat and offering support to others so I was a bit surprised especially about the self-injury.
So everybody is wrong and you are right about being bad? What if you are wrong?
If the old perspective worked for you why give it up?
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My T is wrong, when she says that other people care. Everyone else is lying when they say they care because their actions tell a different story. My T doesn't know these people and doesn't interact with them. She doesn't know the first thing about their opinions or actions.
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Originally Posted by StressedMess
I felt the same, had to look twice at the user name. My first thought was "what triggered this?" My second thought was "I'm too far away to hug her." I'm sorry you're hurting HG!
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I hate comments like this. Not because you're not trying to be nice. I recognize that you are, and your comment was meant in a compassionate way. But they make me feel like I am not allowed to have problems of my own. I'm not allowed to be hurting because I'm the "strong" one. And that's the role I played in my family, the one who can handle everything, who doesn't complain, who doesn't hurt or react to things. It makes me feel bad when I get that same message from others, like they don't want me to talk about my problems because they want me to be the calm and put together one that they can rely on. I know that's my own past at play, but I did feel like I had to mention it.
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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
I think I can relate.
Does it feel similar to: being alone in a room full of people and then someone telling you you're not alone?
I feel that way a lot. I put myself out there, I put forth effort, and when I turn to someone I thought was there, they're a mile away. And then I think "what's the point?"
It’s difficult. It's difficult to be there and it's difficult to remember it doesn't last forever. We have to remember who we are: our strengths and value. But the stregnths and our value do NOT disappear. It's just clouded by emotions and thoughts.
You are valuable. Not perfect; but no one is. Your feelings are valid, but they do not define who you are.
“...Emotions themselves are neither good nor bad. They are simply our psychological responses to the events of life” Gary Chapman
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Yeah, a little like being in crowd but feeling alone. But it's more like realizing that you're only there and you were only invited because people felt like they had to. Or realizing that the party isn't really happening in this room, it's happening next door, but no one wanted to tell you that because they didn't want you to come. So they pretended it was in this room to keep you away from the real party.