Hazel, this sucks. All of it. How you feel your 'friends' have treated you, and your therapist saying what she did(whether it was to be supportive or not), and how it has affected you right now.

I asked my therapist once if he only said nice things about me or to me because he was paid to? I told him I didn't believe him when he said no! I also told him I wanted him to be straight with me, and his response was, that he was honest with me and when he felt that it wouldn't hurt me significantly to do so he would point out when I said or did things that could be perceived by others as annoying or whatever.

I wasn't happy about that initially, but I now understand. Because if he took the direct route too soon, then our relationship potentially could have been ruined. It is still developing and in hindsight he was of course right. Maybe this is what your therapist is doing for/with you?

Also, I relate to much of what you say, and today I found out that I was excluded from an invitation to a group gathering by someone that I thought I got along ok with. It really stung! To be honest though, I sensed in the last week at uni there was a disconnect with this person, but I had no idea what I had done! You are not alone with these struggles. ANd I'll say again, it sucks.