I didn't take it that way Mast. But from prior things you had written I figured those lists your H printed out were not just his list. If my H made me a list of chores, I'd tell him to go to stick it where the sun don't shine and probably never clean a thing again. You are not a horrible wife. You are an intelligent woman with a brain and preferences of her own. And when something is important to you, you will do it and if not then it's lower on your priority list than his and he can either clean it himself or learn to adjust.