It's about your own feelings I think. I agree that re-parenting is a bad word for it. It seems more like drawing your attention to what you've missed, so that you can learn what you need - what's appropriate to ask for and what you should learn to do for yourself.
I don't know really. I guess I'm extra sensitive to this topic right now. I'm feeling a bit abandoned, like I've been left to cope by myself, which is something that happened me a lot when I was little. Re-experiencing sucks. (backstory - T was supposed to email me this week and he didn't, so, yeah, that...)