sabau, i highly recommend Al-Anon for you. i learned that i couldn't change anyone around but i could change the way i handled my emotions. and it is so hurtful for you right now, learning some more coping skills can't do anything but help.

i am so glad that you are there for your grandson. your daughter would also really benefit from Al-Anon and she might start going after she sees you go. i learned in Al-Anon that being a good example sometimes was all someone else needed to see to do some changing on their own.

my heart is with you. i've been there and it's a hellish road. xoxoxo pat