I sometimes feel that way shakey, especially when my 5 year old throws a tantrum. I just think, 'I try my hardest to give you everything I never had: unconditional love, security, encouragement. Why are you acting this way towards me?' I was a really quiet child even though there is a lot I should have been angry about. I have to remind myself that I have given her the opportunity to feel confident enough to express her emotions and be proud! We're not passing on the horrible baton of inadequate parenting!