It is not a matter of love coming and going--it was never there. I married him knowing this but thinking I could just get a divorce. What can I say, I was 23 and really dumb at the time. I had a son from a previous relationship and a strong desire to settle down and have more kids. He had a good job, wanted to marry me and he treated me well. Now that I am older, that just doesn't seem to be enough. I want someone I that laughs at my jokes, that doesn't take life so seriously, someone who wants the same things I want. Someone who is not %#@&#! retentive , who has a positive outlook on life.