They are only human. Most times they don't have an answer for us espically over the phone. When I called my t it helped just to talk to someone who knew about us. She didn't give me a magical way to get out of my pain and confusion. She, also sugested I ground myself. (I use Ice). I hadn't thought of it, so I did and it helped. I called her because I wanted to know she would be there when I needed her. She is but not in the way that I thought it would be. We are not friends or family. We have a professional relationship where she has to maintain a therapeutic distance. What I wanted in that moment was someone who could make me feel safe. But that isn't our relationship. I know she wants the best for me and will help me to find my way. But she will never be the one who makes me feel safe. Inevitably that has to be me. She is just a part of a support system similar to this blog. A place I can go and be myself while trying to figure out how I got here and where I want to go.