I'd say your toy is too big for a number of reasons. Your first toy should be on the smaller size so that you can get used to it. I have been using toys for a number of years, and my largest one isn't quite as big as the one you've purchased. And, not all toys are created the same. I have one that was expensive with stellar reviews, but it hurts SO bad. I have no idea why its rated so highly as no woman wants something as hard as concrete inside of her!