I've only recently begun reading on attachment styles as I've been trying to figure out why I'm acting the way I am. When I read about attachment, it strikes a chord in me.... makes sense. But I am confused because I can't identify with one attachment style (as I understand them as an amateur just learning about them). I think that I typically push away closeness. If someone comes on too strong or pushy, I tend to withdraw quickly and push them away hard. During my marriage, I could feel myself pushing away intimacy and holding myself at a distance. I know I came across as unfeeling. However, I can see in situations where I am the one being rejected, that I display anxious attachment, or preoccupied, tendencies. Is it possible to switch styles, depending on the personality of who you meet? I am also hoping to get control of my attachment style, rather than let it dictate how my friendships or relationships work out. I've only begun this search and welcome any clues or guidance on ways to work to a happier me.