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Havng said that, Almeda, I have also crossed boundaries like you have, in the workplace. I like it when my boss likes me and I always try to be friendly but I don't want that friendship to go beyond the workplace. I always liked keeping home and work life separate. (That's another whole issue altogether having to do with shame...Yikes).

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Hey sister, you shouldn't feel shameful. I've given this more thought and maybe this is me just trying to rationalize my feelings on this but I'm not uncomfortable with how I am in this area.

I think this is part of what makes me unique. One thing I am careful not to do is push myself on someone who doesn't reciprocate. I'm not the type to do that, the rejection would be too much for me

For those who go along though, it usually doesn't cause problems in fact most of us still have great friendships. This is the first time it backfired on me in the boss arena.

I felt kind of stupid the first time my T used the word 'transference' and 'boundaries'...I was like huh? It really threw me for a loop. I never knew there were guidelines like this for our T's and us...now after all the discussion about this and research, I can't believe all that I didn't know. I can be embarrassingly naive at times.

Well thanks everyone for discussing it. nighty night!