I haven't been married as long as you but if my Wife asked me what were some things I liked about her I could name over a dozen and nice skin would definitely not be one of them.

I don't want to tell you how you should live your life but it sounds like your husband and you have some serious relationship issues going on and maybe you could benefit from going to a marriage counselor. My Wife and I are best friends and we don't hide anything from each other and when I have something important to discuss no matter how big or small she is the one I discuss it with first because I trust her. Maybe I am just more open with my emotions because I am a songwriter but if two people are both not willing to be open with each other their relationship is doomed to fail. I wish you good luck with whatever you decide to do.