And if we don't have intercourse (or at least not very often) and therefore can't really use condoms or other barrier birth control, what do I actually use for birth control? I'd rather not use the pill because of the hormones, but it seems like I have no choice. It's not like his penis isn't going to be dangerously close to my vagina from time to time. And if he's not hard enough to put a condom on at that point, there's no other way to protect myself than pills or a patch.