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Oct 06, 2014, 12:42 PM
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Desert Kitty hates titles
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Member Since: Jul 2008
Location: TARDIS
Posts: 12,954
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Originally Posted by blackmagic
I'm still young and shackled by student loan debt, but been coming to terms with being okay with not having children in this lifetime. I'm okay with it, but I'd like to poll anyone who has input:
-Most people with children are always pushing childless people/couples to produce their own. How do you deal with these situations?
-To anyone who is in this situation: how has it worked for you?
Do you have a partner?
How do you feel in retrospect about your life? Are you at peace with yourself, or not?
Thoughts? Perspective?
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I think this thing about expecting couples to have kids is wrong. Not everyone is "cut out" to be a parent, and it is better to remain childless than doing it cause you think people want you to.
It's none of their business, plus they could be hitting on a nerve: Some people may want kids, but they are unable to have them for medical reasons. This could be very painful for them. People suck anyway, I think. Always asking things that are not their business.
People make assumptions about others, esp. women. They assume because I'm a woman, I automatically love kids and babies. I'm not comfortable around kids (too noisy) or babies (again, noise and the mess, LOL).
I wish I had a partner; I still love my ex-bf and he has/had similar feelings about kids. He never wanted any, neither have I. Match made in heaven, except he became ill....We are still friends, but I still miss what we had.
I worry about growing old without kids because there is no one else to care about me. I'm not saying kids always care, and I don't want to be a burden to anyone either. But at least (most likely), offspring will notice if mom is getting dementia or something.  Someone to look after my interests or get someone to care for me, when I can't do it myself anymore.
My best hope is a reliable caregiver. No kids or grandkids, but I wouldn't want to have them just so I can have somebody to take care of me. Kids don't ask to be born, so one should be sure they really want them.
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