Emotional abuse can cause really intense issues.I think generally people find the emotional aspect the hardest part of all abuse eg..breaking your arm if you fall off a bike will hurt,but not cause emotional damage, whereas a parent breaking their child's arm will probably cause emotional damage, so it's the emotional component that is where the damage lies.

I'm in a similar boat in a way.I really dont think I've been sexually abused, and yet I sound like I have:
-my sister has sexual dreams about I think primarily our father..I think she has these with some frequency, certainly she's had them probably more times than she has mentioned to me.Ive had one or two as well but I'm not sure if that was after she'd mentioned it to me or not.
-I have a similar thing to you that you mentioned on another post about watching tv. I was hit as a child,( I find it hard to see it as abuse, or to call it that,) , yet I have a stronger reaction to sexual violence than I do to seeing physical violence.Sometimes I'm horrified by it, and sometimes I feel like I cant stop watching it.
-I strongly remember having an etch a sketch I drew sexual pictures on and I mustve been under the age of 15, but that just could be puberty.
-I didnt understand how to have normal ,respectful sex.I only knew how to have sex like giving a man what they want, and not being present at all really.However I was on and off inappropriate medication for years which had a seriously negative impact on my behaviour so it could just be that.Plus, emotional abuse can cause sexual issues in and of itself.

I dont know. The first time I had sex felt like the first time.I definately believe in repressed memories because I have had them,but Ive had it about emotional and physical stuff.Ive had a really odd life, and spent most of it receiving harmful treatment, so there are always compounding variables.I know what you mean about not wanting to mention it to your therapist.I feel like if I mentioned about me and my sister having those dreams, they'd think there was sexual abuse.However, I dont think you sound remotely manipulative or dramatic.You can tell your therapist your fears about coming across that way or being convinced of something which may not be there. Could you also share this with your partner?