
Oct 06, 2014, 08:50 PM
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Perpetually Pondering
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Member Since: Apr 2013
Location: New England
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Originally Posted by Soul_Flower43
, but it's this staring and the look on his face of desire for that sexy-seductive women he sees in magazines, or where ever, that bothers me the most.
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Earlier on in our relationship, my husband had a bad habit of staring at women all the time when we were out together. I found it so rude! I get it, he finds them attractive, but taking the attention away from me and our time together, it made me feel he's not in to me, and in to them.
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Originally Posted by Soul_Flower43
Yes, we've talked about this earlier on in our relationship, and throughout. He has apologized for this behaviour earlier on, and we've talked about it a lot. The problem is, "ME." I am trying to get to a place where I don't feel insecure about any of this stuff that's out there. I know he loves me, and that is what's important. In the past, he made it obvious, but presently, he tries to hide it. I know he's not meaning to hurt my feelings. And we do talk about it. I know it's a healthy and normal behaviour for men to look etc., as well as women who want to do that too, but the real issue is "Me," because I'm having a hard time accepting it. I am working on accepting this side of my husband, and trying to look pass it all, and just love him. We are all not perfect, and can't please everyone we are in a relationship with, but the important thing is to be respectful and loving to the person you are sharing your life with. He does do this most of the time.
Today, I focused on having a good day, and being happy with him. Once my confidence level is up, this stuff probably won't bother me as much.
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Apologies are nice and all. As I read your post, I get the feeling there's a fine line, going on. To sum it up, TACT.
I'm with Rose about the 'pass the test.' I've seen in other relationships how you describe. I find their men, near sophomoric. If he could develop tact, whilst you work on confidence, then perhaps there's hope.
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