Hey, I'm 23 and a virgin. Never been kissed by someone outside of a drinking game. Never been pursued. Actually, I watched my best friend be romanced by the perfect high school boyfriend, and many others subsequently. But I was always too shy and had low self esteem, and still do. So nothing has happened yet for me.
Which is why I think you should feel better first. Work on your self esteem before trying to get with someone. Losing your virginity is an idea created by men (Patriarchy) to prevent women from having the power to choose their own lifestyles. So technically, virginity doesn't exist: Or at least, not as something to be lost in some great significant moment.
However, I still think you should love yourself when you decide to be intimate with someone else. If you love and respect yourself, you won't let someone who disrespects you be intimate with you. Or at least you will come away from the experience feeling strong and like you made a decision that was in your control.
Also, when I feel good about myself, that is always when flirting comes easily, when guys come up to me (though not yet the right one... for me anyway). It is rare, but when I can get to that place, I like me so other people like to be around me.
I think you can get there too. Personality over superficial traits.