my Therapist never checks in with me first, yet I know she does care. She just doesn't do it. did you T tell you he doesn't care about you? Each T has their own boundaries, he is a very good therapist AND probably also cares about you. many things play a role in showing it or not. Personal boundaries, attitude, culture.. just my two cents. Hope it makes some sense (I was interested in the statement that you *know* he doesn't care about you).