Well, what you are experiencing is actually "normal" tbh. A parent spends many years being responsible for their child and it's something they do so much that when a child eventually leaves, it's actually a bit of a shock to the parents. Honestly, many parents get so used to trying to help their child through different aspects of their lives that they may not really realize how the child really just wants to finally just do their own thing.

It sounds like your parents just want to make sure you are ok, that's all. You are not going to understand that unless you have your own child. I have a daughter that is 30 myself and I still like to hear from her and know she is doing ok myself. Although my daughter doesn't live far away, and at times she has struggled and just needed an ear too. But, I do try to consider "not" telling her what to do if I can, and remember that while she is my daughter, she is going to do her life "her way".

I think that you just need to adjust the way you think about your parents wanting to have some kind of control over you and just know all they really want is to know you are ok, which is normal of parents that "care' about their child. You don't have to share things with them where you are going to hear their advice either. You need to remember, that when you do share, they are only, out of years of habit trying to give you helpful parenting advice.

OE