Today was my first time finding this thread, you have been through so much, sending hugs and well wishes that you can through all of this. I do think telling truth eas best-when I read the early parts, it seemed they were investigating the therapist. I think it would have been much worse for your husband to hear it from someone else. Even though it stinks that uou now have to go through a diborce, whn you could really use support.I am not judging you in any way-maybe your husband is using this situation as excuse to divorce you??-I say that because somewhere you mentioned him letting you think the sexual problems were all your fault...whatevet the reasons, I am sorry you now also have emotional upset of divorce. Hang in there.