Stopdog, I know very little about you but since I've joined the forum I see you consistently reject the possibility or importance of being cared for in therapy. I imagine it's something to do with you having been hurt in the past because I can not imagine how one can make meaningful progress in therapy without feeling cared for.

Btw, I hope this did not sound too critical of you. I just really think that feeling the care is big part of how people can get to heal emotional scars. And it starts in therapy. But to feel care, does not mean it has to be a black and white thing. I don't think this is about like parental love or romantic love or thing like that. This is a professional relationship and the person is getting paid to provide a service. But a good therapist actually does care for clients. And I personally think it's important to be able to feel it.