I'm sorry you've experienced this abrupt ending to your therapy. IMO, you didn't do anything wrong and I hope you don't beat yourself up over your part in this situation. It's very likely one of those things that's bad timing, something no one could predict.
Your therapist obviously suffered a personal shock and may be in crisis himself over his friend's suicide last weekend. It's very possible that he confided many confused feelings (which we can't even guess at) to his peer and that the combination of his personal loss, transference and counter-transference may be more than he can handle right now.
If it was a close friend ... well, I've lost friends suddenly and shockingly and it made it almost impossible for me to deal with other people's problems and to do them any kind of justice. My own reactions were off-kilter for a while. Compassion and empathy for others takes a backseat while one regroups and processes their own grief. That's got to be a devastating situation for a therapist.
Some Ts (and people in other professions) find it helps to lose themselves in their work and to focus entirely on other people for many hours a day. Others just can't manage it. Their loss puts them out of focus.
When you take the suicide into account, I wouldn't be surprised if your T hasn't already or won't soon be "breaking up" with other patients. If he can't focus his attention and energies properly, it would be doing more harm than good. If he has counter-transference issues they might cause him to turn therapy sessions into seeking comfort for himself. It would be a human thing to do, but not ethical.
Neither of you could have predicted what was going to happen on the weekend. How could you? Sometimes life is just unfair. This sounds like one of those times. This was out of your control and out of his. I'm really sorry you've suffered the backlash to become collateral damage in a stranger's sudden death. Confusing, unfair, and not your fault in any way.
I wish you the best.
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