I hear where you are coming from, BellaLoca, and I totally feel your pain. Granted, my "issues" are not alcohol related but they are ones I cannot just "get over" simply because someone tells me to. Honestly, I personally feel that hearing those words makes the things I'm dealing with that much harder to "get over" so, in my opinion, those words do more harm than good (which is not exactly helpful then, is it? ). As to how you can make anyone understand why you cannot just "get over it"...good luck, you can explain until you are blue in the face and still get nowhere because, truth is, they (those who are telling you these words) really, truly do NOT understand and, unless and until they do, the chances of you hearing anything different from them is likely never going to happen. As bluedonna92 said above, the best you can do is try and educate those who need educating.

All the best to you!!

Biggggg hugs