I can see this could be true as well as you get treated in a certain way because you allow it. I'm sure in a 100 different ways I ask for how I am treated... And I accept it. I can't make someone treat me differently...I can't change another persons actions all I can control is mine. I could choose to leave the T or the people in my life but I have chosen to stay.

I can see now that my original post about my T was worded to seek sympathy. I didn't see that before but I do now. Just me playing the victim again, I will try to notice that sooner before I post. I don't need sympathy for my choice I am not a victim.