I feel like Madkitty...mad at this man who is emotionallly abusive and cunning! ...putting his ring on before going to counseling (just for show!)
As someone else said here, none of us can make your decisions for you. You are truly in charge of your own life and decisions.
I am going to PM you about my depression at age 41 while still married.
There really ARE many postives in your favor..you're still young (though you may not realize it or feel it!), you have job and can support yourself, and you're intelligent and educated!
Personally, I would make arrangements to leave this man, or kick him out!
Love
Patty