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Old Oct 07, 2014, 11:10 PM
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Lady Lindsey Lady Lindsey is offline
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Most of my high school years I was teased, told I was ugly, even by my own mother, eventually I believed it. When I looked in the mirror all I saw was a huge nose and a crooked smile looking back at me. Sometimes we get a distorted image of ourselves that can last a life time.
If you are truly fat, go to a BMI calculator and put your information in. just search BMI calculator and you will find whether you truly have a weight problem or if it is just a warped perception based on bullying.
If you feel ugly, I am truly sorry, I rarely have met a truly ugly person, and those that are truly ugly, are ugly on the inside and it reflects on the outside, no matter how "beautiful" they look.
It took years for me to finally realize I was not ugly, I am far from perfect and I do not compare to all the photo shopped pictures in the magazines. What I finally realized after dealing with both anorexia and bulimia, and very low self esteem, I determine how the world see's me. I now stand tall and no longer hold my shoulders down in shame, I found a hairstyle that complimented the one feature I liked about myself, my eyes, and I learned to wear cloths that covered my perceived flaws... am I gorgeous no, but I am not ugly either, infact some say I am beautiful, although I cannot see what they see in the mirror.
I guess what I am saying is do not let the world dictate who you are, it is up to you, if you truly have a weight problem, you and you alone need to do something about it. Take a walk daily, it is wonderful for mindfulness and helps you build positive endorphins in your brain, and gives you exercise. Practice walking tall and proud as you take your walk at first it will be hard and may seem silly, find kindness in your soul and let it shine in your face. Beauty comes from the inside... I know that sounds like a cliché, but it is true... and by all means find a way to get your GED or graduate from highschool, your future happiness depends on it.
This advice is given to you by a women who is 49 and has been through the cruelness of highschool... I may have my flaws but many say I am beautiful now.... don't let the world dictate your beauty, you can dictate that yourself! Will I ever feel beautiful, probably not the way I want to, but I am a beautiful person and you can be too,,,, you hold your future in your hands, and you can stand tall and can exude beauty. Some of the most beautiful people are not physically as attractive as todays standards, look at Barbara Strysand, not the most beautiful facial features, but a beautiful women.... it is up to you, do not let others dictate whom you are!
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Lindsey
“Even on my weakest days
I get a little bit stronger” - Sarah Evans

Wise words I am trying to learn to live by and will slowly learn to believe as I heal......


“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”
- Steve Maraboli