Today I was chatting with my guy friend about a new coffee stand that opened up near my work. I guess it's one of those cowgirl ones. I don't know much about it other than I'm thinking it's meant to be risqué. We were joking about going to it and he said "can I go with you if you go?" I took it as a joke, a joke about him wanting to check out the girls there. I jokingly replied with a no. We joked a little more about it and then he made a comment that rather than seeing the girls he was more interested in my reaction to the girls. At the same time I made a comment about he can go, but only if they have cowboys there for me too. He became really upset. I thought he was joking around and saying he wanted to check out the girls. He said no, he was serious and just wanted to see how I would react to the girls. And he was deeply offended that I would joke about wanting to see any cowboys there. I tried to explain that I was simply joking, I have no interest in checking out any guys, and I thought we were both joking about it. He said it was rude and it was offensive and even though I tried to explain I was joking, he was still offended.

I guess I'm hurt that he doesn't seem to actually accept that we both misunderstood each other. He remains pretty steadfast that he was serious and doesn't seem to accept that I took what he said as a joke about wanting to see the girls. And he remains pretty steadfast in being offended by it. Also, since we are not in a relationship, and he doesn't want to be right now, why such a strong reaction? And thirdly, how do you get someone this jealous (since I'm from Texas, used to have horses, then maybe I really do want a cowboy), to trust that you aren't going to cheat or flaunt other men in front of him. He is very confusing to me and sends me some pretty mixed signals.