Mouse, my fear of anger has to do with thinking I will be abandoned by the person I am angry with if I express it. It will cause a disconnect and then I won't know what to do. I won't know how to reconnect. In fact, I don't think it's possible mostly. If I show anger, disagree, etc then the other will leave me and it will be my fault for showing the anger, feeling the anger even.

I also think others are looking for ways or reasons to abandon me because they really never wanted to be connected to me in the first place and will be glad for my giving them an opportunity to get away from me.

(Were you listening to my session today at 2pm when we discussed this?! )