I hope you choose to live. Why has this been untreated.? How about getting it treated with a good therapist. "Every man's death diminishes me." I believe that. We are all unique......Your mother is miserable and wants you to be also. YOU get to decide who you are. Stay with us. As for "get on with it." ....How about getting on with living........dying is easy.....and so many of us have only a short time to Live. P.S. People who abuse, hate themselves and take it out on others. Don't give her the satisfaction (then she can become a martyr). Get help, and do things that make you happy! xo

You might want to read The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans; that book saved my life.
also...Boundaries by Townsend and Cloud is so helpful